Thursday, July 5, 2007

10 Secr3ts Of P3rFeCt LiF3

The first secret - the power of thought.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about.Lovingthoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves andothers. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs anddesires. Thinking about your ideal partnerwill help you recognize her when you meet her.

The second secret - the power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. Thefirst person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gainself-respect ask yourself, “What do I respect about myself?” To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself“What do I respect about them?”

The third secret - the power of giving.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself,freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts ofkindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the otherperson will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship isto always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

The fourth secret - the power of friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other’s eyes, but rather looking outwardtogether in the same direction. To love someone completely you must lovethem for who they are, not what they look like.Friendship is the soil through which love’s seeds grow. If you want tobring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The fifth secret - the power of touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical andemotional states and makes us more receptiveto love.
The sixth secret - the power of letting go.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it’s yours, if it doesn’t it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need theirown space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive andlet go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.” Today I let go of all my fears, the pasthas no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life.”

The seventh secret - the power of communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To lovesomeone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magicwords: “I Love You.” Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you sayand……… ……. …why are you waiting?

The eighth secret - the power of commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have lovingrelationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitmentdistinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The ninth secret - the power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not comethrough physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment,enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity andsurprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same;all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The tenth secret - the power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trappedand emotionally suffocated.You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Actas if your relationship with the person you love will never end.One of the way in which always you can tell whether a person is right foryou is to ask yourself, “Do I trust them completely and unreservedly? ” If the answer is “no”, think carefully before making a commitment.